Weekend Wonder

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The week with all its incessant demands like school lunches (that must be super duper healthy), remembering to pack sports uniforms on the days that sport is on (Monday and Wednesday, Mum! It changes every odd week! It’s not Tuesday and Friday anymore!) brushing hair, it’s a miracle we remember to brush our teeth let alone our hair. Yes, sometimes it’s all about getting to the weekend but what happens when we get there? Often times we can be so consumed by getting to the weekend we don’t know how to use it well. Here are some tips and tricks to making the most of your weekend.

  1. Prepare Early

Around about the Tuesday mark, start doing some soul searching and family sleuthing. What have you been craving? What have the kidlets been interested in or non-stop talking about this week? Has your youngest started to become obsessed with giraffes and monkeys? Is it all about meerkats and marsupials? Maybe a trip to the zoo would do everyone some good and allow you to let your inner monkey out. Have you been craving to get out of the city and swan about through some delicious countryside? Hope on to google on your lunch break and see which regional towns you could get to over the weekend. Book a quaint bed and breakfast and have yourself an escape to the country. Trips don’t have to be far and they don’t have to be long. With a little research and planning, weekends can be great little get-a-ways.

  1. Home Time Shenanigans With Forts

Get as much linen from around the house as you can. Take a trip to Kmart and buy a few of the stick on hooks that can be easily removed after using them. Put all of the linen ‘resources’ into one big pile and then call the family over. A tip is to put your eldest in charge to allow them the opportunity to engage with and figure out their leadership style. Then, it’s fort time. You can split your family into teams or all work together to create the most epic fort possible! Be sure to have a few packets of ready-to-pop popcorn in the cupboard, along with any other foodstuffs you think would go great in a fort and then have a picnic in your newly created oasis!

  1. Getting Active

It is hard to get the ol’ bod out of bed on the weekend but researchers and scientists say that a little bit of movement and exercise has great effects down the track (daily and in terms of a lifetime). Head to your local park and kick or throw a ball around with your brood. A great way to get yourself (let’s be honest, we need the incentive too) and your little ones out of bed it to treat the family to a cafe breakfast after the morning family walk and run around. [/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” width=”1/12″ column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][/vc_column][/vc_row]

The Expectation Cycle, Getting Stuck And Where We Can Go From Here

The Expectation Cycle, Getting Stuck And Where We Can Go From Here

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Yet when it comes to the day to day repercussions of these debates, the expectations that have imbued themselves so deep in our psyche that we don’t realise these ideas have burrowed in, harm can be done. For many of us, the juggling of motherhood, family life and career could take up all the volumes of Tolstoy’s War and Peace, leaning a little more heavily on the war bit.

Who are we to believe, those that cry out from the ramparts that we can ‘have it all and hell to the naysayers’ or the sit down Sallys of ‘I’m tired of picking up your slack when you call in sick because your child has picked up a nasty at day-care’ ?. It’s exhausting and we need to talk about it.

Both these standpoints and every shade in-between have passionate and learned voices singing their tunes. Each in their turn has logic and sense behind it, isn’t it a good thing to spur on woman to have it all, the bill of trading in one hand and the nursing babe in the other? Yet it is a fact of life that mum’s sometimes have to call in sick when their little one comes down with a fever and who then has to pick up the slack?

There may be some supermums out there that can beat all the others to the post, after not having slept the night and having done 4 loads of washing before 6am and to you we give great due but we know for us, being a mum is downright gruelling and we cannot do it all.

It is ok not to be able to do it all. Just like it’s ok to be able to do it all. Many of us mums have been caught up in the wave of expectations that have come from all sides. We got the vote, yes, use it, go into politics. Yes, we got into universities, go on to higher study, PhDs and beyond, yes have children and raise new life within all the challenges of the modern world while climbing the ladder.

Great and important strides have been made for women across the decades and to those involved, you have more than words can express from our hearts but maybe just maybe, a by-product of these hard won victories has been for us to place an onus on ourselves to make the greatest and most passionate use of them. As if my not striving for that promotion or putting in those extra hours we will have let the team down, ourselves down.

However, in that one breath, we are also dealing with billowing waves of child neglect guilt, we are missing out on milestones and micro moments. The first lost tooth, we weren’t there, the first time doing the 3 times tables perfectly on their own, we weren’t there. These two conflicting but equally as potent and jarring expectation points can be debilitating for many.

Know that it ok to make concessions when it comes to the perfect standard we place on ourselves in the workplace. It is ok not to strive to be CEO. It is ok to negotiate to work three days a week. Give yourself time and space to work out your priorities and schedule. How are you going to look after yourself, mentally and physically to the best you can, in keeping with how much you take on in all the areas of your life?

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